WHAT IS ENERGETIC SELF-PERCEPTION? AND WHY DOES IT MATTER?
Your perception of yourself changes your energy and your behavior! The world around you responds to you as you see yourself, so changing how you feel about yourself can change your life.
Bruce Schneider, the founder of the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, developed a scale of positive and negative ways you see yourself in relation to the world. Each of those levels has a kind of energy that generates the feelings you have about yourself. Then, that energy affects the way other people relate to you.
YOU CAN CHOOSE THE KIND OF LIFE YOU WILL LEAD.
Those levels are grouped into three categories, or circles. The circle of self, the lowest one, is filled almost completely with negative energy and a weak sense of self-worth and importance. Next, the circle of self-mastery has steadily increasing degrees of self-esteem, confidence and positive energy. Finally, self-transcendence is the highest circle. There, you would be filled with joy and passion, seeing the goodness in everyone. You could live without fear.
THAT IS ENERGETIC SELF-PERCEPTION!
Schneider says you have all seven of them and can access them whenever you choose. Sometimes, he said, you can experience them all within a few minutes. However, you usually spend more time in one level than the others until you decide you have the power to consciously access all of them.
THAT’S REAL POWER!
When you can decide to use any and all of your ways of being to accomplish your goals, everything is possible. Your relationships with other people will change because your perception of yourself will have changed. The energies you radiate can attract whatever you imagine.
HERE IS A SUMMARY OF THE SEVEN LEVELS OF ENERGETIC SELF-PERCEPTION
Can you find the one or two that feel the most familiar?
Circle of Self: levels 1 and 2
- Weak ego and personal identity, low sense of self-worth and self-importance.
- Needing to fill a perceived lack
- Little confidence in self, people, ideas or things
- Energy and efforts are blocked or conflicted
Core Thoughts – Victim. At the effect of events, thoughts, perceptions that prevent success.
Core Feelings/Emotions– Apathy. Lack of enthusiasm and/or engagement.
Actions/Results – lethargy, inability to see options.
Core Thoughts – Conflict, both internal and external. Struggle, judgment. Right or wrong thinking.
Core Feelings/Emotions – Anger. Annoyance, resentment, hostility, irritability, frustration.
Actions/Results – Defiance. Resistance, disobedience, contempt, rebellion.
Circle of Self-Mastery: levels 3, 4 and 5
- Strong ego, sense of personal identity, self-esteem, and self-confidence
- Having, being in possession of what is needed.
- Awareness, having knowledge, consciousness, realization, and understanding
- Confident belief in the truth, value, trustworthiness of a person, thing, idea outside of the self.
Core Thoughts – Responsibility, Owning personal feelings. Choosing to be accountable for personal experiences and choices.
Core Feelings/Emotions – Forgiveness, condoning, pardoning, excusing a fault or mistake.
Actions/Results – Cooperation. Working towards a shared goal or benefit. Can “keep the boat afloat” by getting along with everyone.
Core Thoughts – Concern. Care, involvement, connection and relation to others. Some concern for self.
Core Feelings/Emotions – Compassion. Empathy, tenderness, kindness, sympathy, and concern for the suffering and misfortune of others. Some self-compassion.
Actions/Results – Service, assistance, some self-care.
Core Thoughts – Reconciliation, agreement, understanding. Elimination of right/wrong or black/white thinking and judgment. “Win-win or I don’t play.”
Core Feelings/Emotions – Peace, calmness, tranquility, contentment, harmony.
Actions/Results – Acceptance, willingness to receive. Able to accept differences instead of changing them.
Circle of Self-Transcendence: levels 6 and 7
- No ego or sense of individual self
- Being and experiencing the totality of the present; timelessness
- Intuitive awareness, aware of the seen and the unseen
- Faith that doesn’ need logic or material evidence
- Embraces joy, wisdom, creativity, non-judgment
Core Thoughts – Synthesis, blending away of the illusion of individuality. Combining separate elements to form a coherent whole. We are all one. Synergy.
Core Feelings/Emotions – Joy, permanent sense of pleasure, happiness, and delight.
Actions/Results – Wisdom, having or showing insight, intuition an enlightenment.
Core Thoughts – non-judgment, lack of fear, objectivity.
Core Feelings/Emotions – Absolute Passion, total bliss. Intense enthusiasm for all experiences.
Actions/Results – Creation. The spontaneous manifestation of ideas, thoughts and genius thinking.
If I need to take an action, sometimes it helps if I imagine these levels of energy as roommates in the house of my “self”.
Level 1, the victim, I imagine as Velma. She is a woman who seems to wear misfortune around her shoulders like a shawl. She has the body of someone who eats for emotional comfort and doesn’t have the energy or organization for health or exercise. She always needs something and doesn’t trust that anything will work in her favor.
Level 2, the one in conflict, I imagine as Conrad. He is always on the defensive and will attack someone over a misplaced salt shaker even if others are nearby. His body is thin and wiry as his metabolism is high. The acid in his stomach is giving him ulcers, which he blames on his work environment.
About 80% of people in the world act on levels 1 and 2 most of the time, according to Schneider. You don’t have to be among them!
Level 3, the one who keeps everything on an even keel, is Karen. She is the one who brings coffee to the co-worker who is grumpy in the morning without it and helps soothe ruffled feathers wherever she goes. Karen often brings baked goods to meetings. When people offer her food or gifts, she never wants to hurt their feelings, so she accepts. She dresses in modestly cheerful clothes, exercises when she can and is slightly overweight.
Level 4, the one who defines himself by his service, I imagine as Sebastian. He also brings baked goods to meetings. However, he doesn’t eat any, just in case someone might need a second helping. Sebastian runs a large charitable organization and sometimes finds that relationships get in the way of his service work. He exercises so he can participate in charity “runs” and works many hours each week.
Level 5, my reconciliation “win-win or I don’t play” diva, I named Rebecca. She is a no-nonsense, straight from the hip, speaker. I never have to wonder where she stands. Rebecca wears straight skirted suits and keeps her body and her relationships in balance with her life priorities. She is healthy and knows what she has time to do.
I can give the imaginary characters situations in my life to act out and vicariously check out the possible outcomes.
Level 6 is my embodiment of wisdom and I call him Wiliam. He has had an exciting life, improving health systems of multiple countries. Whatever his title, he fit in wherever he was. Will never worried about his next project and the right one always appeared at the right time. He is happily married to a woman just like him in the same field. Usually, his body size and shape are within the range of normal. He exercises a part of his normal day, eats healthy portions of natural food and doesn’t stress. William’s body easily handles the food he puts into it
Level 7, Claire, is so spiritual that she is sometimes out of touch but she seems to be able to create amazingly workable solutions to intractable problems. Claire is a creative and ingenious artist, musician and engineer. Her physical self is in alignment with her spiritual self. She wears whatever she feels like wearing. After she consults with people, they all feel accepted, enlightened and encouraged.